Birth Stories/Post Birth Feedback from
Blissful Birthing Mothers
Kim & Simon
This was my second birth and I had unfortunately had a dramatic first birth experience where I was induced and then the epidural didn't work after 3 attempts. With that in my mind I knew I needed to find an alternative for pain relief for this time as I couldn't re-live that experience again.
I had previously heard of Hypnobirthing but not really looked into it until I went to a baby show where someone was doing a talk on it. This lady had used Hypnobirthing for her third birth and explained how different her experience was from her first two. This got me intrigued and then I found out that Rachel taught it and was able to help teach me.
It was 4.11am and I had woken up to tightenings across my stomach. I had Braxton hicks twice the week before and these felt a lot stronger. I started timing them and they were 12 minutes apart. I used my up breathing and used my visualisations which really helped. It got to 7am and told Simon he wouldn't be going into work that day. He started panicking and unfortunately had forgotten all about our Hypnobirthing course, got me stressed out and it sent my waves into a frenzy; they became very irregular now. I sat and gathered my thoughts and realised that adrenaline works against oxytocin so calmed myself down as I really wanted this to work.
Mid morning my waves had got to around 5 minutes apart and so we called the hospital. Unfortunately Simon had forgotten that when they ask to speak to me that he needed to take over but instead passed the phone to me. After getting off the phone, my waves had slowed down massively and now were up to 9 minutes apart. We were told that laughter is a good way to release oxytocin so we put a comedy film on. My waves started to come closer together again so we called the hospital, they told us to ring the maternity unit closer to us and again Simon passed the phone to me when they asked. The midwife gave us the option if we wanted to go in and we decided to monitor it for another half an hour before making a decision. Frustratingly, the waves got far apart to 14 minutes now and then almost stopped. I was so annoyed now and so decided to put clary sage in the diffuser mixed with rose and jasmine as these are all meant to bring on and encourage labour. I got myself back in the zone, stayed on my feet more and around 1.30pm the waves started again and were now 4 minutes apart.
We headed to the hospital and I put my mp3 on through my headphones to stay in the zone whilst in the car. We got to the hospital and Rachel was there as we walked in, just by coincidence, but for me it was the best scenario as she guided me through my Hypnobirthing course and I felt an extra urge of strength and comfort to be able to get through this with her there.
I set up my essential oils in the room and put my mp3 on loud. It got to 5pm and I agreed to an examination to see how things were progressing as I needed to know for my own preparation. I was 4cm dilated. This was the first and last time that I was examined. I continued my up breathing and found the visualisations very helpful as the pain got worse. The hot air balloon and blowing bubbles in particular. There was a phrase in my birthing suite printed on the wall that read "my surges cannot be stronger than me because they are me". This really resonated with me and helped me a lot.
Around 6pm I asked to go in the birthing pool and so my new midwife started to fill it up. By this point my pain had increased loads and my waves were a lot longer. It got to a point where the waves were really intense and I realised the only relief was to push. I did contemplate asking for gas and air as the up breathing just wasn't helping as much as before but every time when I could have asked for it, another wave happened and I realised I just needed to push. I changed to my down breathing without intending to because it came naturally from remembering how it worked from practicing it in my daily activities. Soon after, I felt the baby below and his head was ready to come out. Because I had continued with my breathing,my husband and midwife hadn't realised I had started to push until I let out a big moan (which is when baby's head was crowning) to which the midwife put the mirror in the water, realised baby was nearly here and then had to prepare for its arrival.
We welcomed a little boy into the world with no pain relief and I am so proud of myself that I managed to do it through Hypnobirthing. There is a lot of stigma around that Hypnobirthing is a "hippy" theory but I cannot recommend it enough and have continued to tell everyone about it when I get the chance. I am someone who wanted an epidural for my first birth knowing my pain threshold is very low and so if Hypnobirthing can help me, it really can help anyone as long you are fully committed to it.
I also wanted to thank you for all of your support throughout my pregnancy and after, you really were amazing! And it was so lovely to have you in the background throughout it all, your hypnobirthing classes were amazing and I would still recommend it to everyone even though my birth didn't go quite to plan, I felt so relaxed about going into labour and that is truly down to you and your sessions with us. I also think my partner got so much from it as well, he was so calm and really helped me during the birth and after...so a massive THANK YOU!